Kamibeppu Kiyoko
Department of Family Nursing, Faculty of Medicine, Graduate School of Health and Nursing, The University of Tokyo, 7-3-1 Hongo, Bunkyo-ku, Tokyo, Japan.
Am J Psychoanal. 2005 Mar;65(1):13-29. doi: 10.1007/s11231-004-1815-x.
In this paper, the author reconsiders "motherhood" in Japan. This reconsideration is based on Japanese psychoanalytic knowledge and a case study of a woman. As a child she was physically abused by her father, and struggled throughout her life with conflicts with her mother. The Japanese have historically idealized the concept of "motherhood" and maintained that it was possible for women to become the ideal mother for their children. The author maintains that "motherhood" is not dependent only on mothers, but is created and shared by fathers, children and all of society. In psychotherapy, the therapist provides a "motherly" energy to the client and shares the "motherhood" fantasy with the client to a certain extent. The therapist assists the client in the gradual process of abandoning the desire to be loved by the ideal mother and accept "motherhood" from other sources.
在本文中,作者重新审视了日本的“母性”概念。这种重新审视基于日本的精神分析知识以及对一名女性的案例研究。她小时候遭受父亲的身体虐待,一生都在与和母亲的冲突中挣扎。日本人在历史上一直将“母性”概念理想化,并坚称女性有可能成为孩子理想的母亲。作者认为,“母性”并非仅由母亲决定,而是由父亲、孩子以及整个社会共同创造和分享的。在心理治疗中,治疗师会为来访者提供一种“母亲般的”能量,并在一定程度上与来访者分享“母性”幻想。治疗师协助来访者逐步放弃被理想母亲关爱的欲望,并从其他来源接受“母性”。