Department of Psychology, University of Tennessee, Knoxville, TN 37996, USA.
J Fam Psychol. 2010 Dec;24(6):787-90. doi: 10.1037/a0021678.
Despite a growing literature on the positive implications of forgiveness and recent efforts to promote forgiveness in marriage, there is reason to believe forgiveness could have yet-unknown negative implications. In particular, forgiveness may increase the likelihood that offenders will offend again by removing unwanted outcomes for those offenders (e.g., criticism, guilt, loneliness) that would otherwise discourage them from reoffending. Consistent with this possibility, the current 7-day-diary study revealed that newlywed spouses were more likely to report that their partners had engaged in a negative behavior on days after they had forgiven those partners for a negative behavior than on days after they had not forgiven those partners for a negative behavior. Interpersonal theories and interventions designed to treat and prevent relationship distress may benefit by acknowledging this potential cost of forgiveness.
尽管关于宽恕的积极意义的文献越来越多,并且最近也在努力促进婚姻中的宽恕,但有理由相信宽恕可能会产生未知的负面影响。特别是,宽恕可能会增加冒犯者再次冒犯的可能性,因为它消除了那些冒犯者(例如批评、内疚、孤独)本应阻止他们再次冒犯的不良后果。根据这一可能性,当前的 7 天日记研究表明,新婚配偶在原谅伴侣的负面行为后的几天内,比在没有原谅伴侣的负面行为后的几天内,更有可能报告他们的伴侣有负面行为。旨在治疗和预防关系困扰的人际理论和干预措施可能会受益于承认宽恕的这种潜在代价。