Slonim-Nevo Vered, Al-Krenawi Alean
Spitzer Department of Social Work, Ben Gurion University of the Negev, 84105 Beer Sheva, Israel.
Fam Process. 2006 Sep;45(3):311-30. doi: 10.1111/j.1545-5300.2006.00173.x.
In this study, we interviewed 10 polygamous families, all residing in a Bedouin Arab town in the south of Israel and consisting of 1 husband, 2 wives, and children. Five members were interviewed in each family: first wife, second wife, the oldest child of the first wife, the oldest child of the second wife, and the husband. Five families were considered well-functioning families and five as poorly functioning. Findings suggest that polygamy in both well-functioning and poorly functioning families is painful, particularly for wives. Yet, there are many ways and techniques that enable members of the family to function well. Among them are acceptance of polygamy as God's wish or destiny, equal allocation of resources among both families by the husband, separation between the two households, avoidance of "minor" conflicts and disagreements, maintaining an attitude of respect toward the other wife, and allowing open communication among all siblings, and among children and the other mother. We discuss the need to develop, implement, and evaluate family intervention programs for polygamous families among different communities in the world.
在本研究中，我们采访了10个一夫多妻家庭，所有家庭都居住在以色列南部的一个贝都因阿拉伯城镇，每个家庭由1名丈夫、2名妻子和孩子组成。每个家庭中有5名成员接受了采访：第一任妻子、第二任妻子、第一任妻子的最大孩子、第二任妻子的最大孩子以及丈夫。其中5个家庭被认为是功能良好的家庭，另外5个则功能欠佳。研究结果表明，无论是功能良好还是功能欠佳的家庭，一夫多妻制都会带来痛苦，尤其是对妻子而言。然而，有许多方法和技巧能够使家庭成员良好地运转。其中包括将一夫多妻制视为上帝的旨意或命运予以接受、丈夫在两个家庭之间平等分配资源、两个家庭分开居住、避免“小”冲突和分歧、保持对另一位妻子的尊重态度，以及允许所有兄弟姐妹之间、孩子与另一位母亲之间进行开放的交流。我们讨论了为世界各地不同社区的一夫多妻家庭制定、实施和评估家庭干预项目的必要性。
