Klosinski G
Klinik und Poliklinik für Kinder- und Jugendpsychiatrie, Universität Bern.
Acta Paedopsychiatr. 1990;53(3):240-2.
A regulation of visiting rights after separation or divorce against the explicitly expressed wish of the children will always be problematic and mostly an enforced practised visiting of the parent without the rights of custody will be avoided. This the more so, if the children are already in pubescence or adolescence. If the parent without the rights of custody wants to get into contact with his adolescent children or maintain already existing contact, the dynamic of relationship in this phase of detachment from the family home as well as the dynamic of the process of finding individuality has to be kept in mind. The assessor should then not only describe the present situation of the relationships of the broken up family, but also try to sound out actively in how far during the process of finding individuality and separation movement into one or the other direction is possible and desirable. With the help of a case example this shall be shown and discussed.
违背孩子明确表达的意愿，在分居或离婚后对探视权进行规定总是会有问题的，而且大多会避免在没有监护权的情况下强制要求父母进行探视。如果孩子已经处于青春期或青少年期，情况更是如此。如果没有监护权的父母想要与处于青春期的孩子取得联系或维持已有的联系，就必须考虑到在这个脱离家庭住所的阶段人际关系的动态变化以及寻找个性的过程的动态变化。评估者不仅应该描述破裂家庭中目前的关系状况，还应该积极试探在寻找个性和分离的过程中朝着一个或另一个方向发展的可能性和可取性。下面将通过一个案例来展示和讨论这一点。
