"You Have Made All the Loving Choices": Good Parent Praise in Pediatric Critical Care Conferences.

BACKGROUND AND OBJECTIVES

Parents' ideas about what it means to be a "good parent" to their seriously ill child influence parental decision-making. Little is known about when, why, and how clinicians offer good-parent praise or how parents react. Our objective was to describe clinicians' spontaneous use of good-parent praise statements to parents during PICU care conferences and how parents respond.

METHODS

Single-center, cross-sectional review of 72 transcripts of audio-recorded PICU care conferences in a quaternary medical center. Qualitative analysis was conducted to code triggers for clinician good-parent statements and parent responses.

RESULTS

Clinicians made at least one statement of good-parent praise in 32% of family conferences. Triggers for clinician statements of good-parent praise were categorized into 6 themes: decision making, gratitude to the clinical team, defense of parenting, parental body language, parental guilt, and intention to close the meeting. Parental responses to clinician statements of good-parent praise fell into 6 themes: acknowledgment, medical talk, deepening of feelings expressed in conversation, focusing on a decision, redirecting on the patient, and gratitude.

CONCLUSIONS

Clinicians spontaneously praised parents for their role in being a good parent in less than one-third of family conferences. Clinician statements were triggered by verbal and nonverbal parental behaviors, a critical decision-making point in the conversation, and an intention to close the meeting. In response, parents frequently responded positively to the praise and often returned the gratitude or reflected on their feelings about caregiving for their child.