Meunier Étienne, Sauermilch Daniel
Department of Sociomedical Sciences, Columbia University Mailman School of Public Health, New York, New York, USA.
Department of Clinical Psychology, Long Island University Brooklyn, Brooklyn, New York, USA.
J Homosex. 2023 Feb 23;70(3):519-541. doi: 10.1080/00918369.2021.1993662. Epub 2021 Oct 22.
Studies have documented gay men's engagement in collective sex (e.g., group sex in public or commercial environments) but little attention has been paid to these men's relationship desires or agreements. We report on qualitative interviews with 20 gay men who attended private sex clubs in New York City, asking how participants navigated sometimes conflicting desires for collective sex and committed relationships. Participants felt that collective sex was either a) incompatible with relationships, which should be monogamous; b) complementary to a primary non-monogamous relationship; or c) at least as important as relationships. Gay men attending sex clubs attribute different value to collective sex and to committed relationships, and experience different challenges in satisfying their desires for intimacy. Resources could help gay men navigating these apparently conflicting desires and making suitable choices regarding their relationships and/or sexual agreements.
研究记录了男同性恋者参与群体性行为（例如在公共或商业场所的群交），但这些男性的关系欲望或约定却很少受到关注。我们报告了对20名在纽约市私人性俱乐部活动的男同性恋者进行的定性访谈，询问参与者如何应对有时相互冲突的群体性行为欲望和忠诚关系欲望。参与者认为群体性行为要么a）与应实行一夫一妻制的关系不相容；b）对主要的非一夫一妻制关系起补充作用；要么c）至少与关系一样重要。光顾性俱乐部的男同性恋者对群体性行为和忠诚关系赋予不同的价值，并且在满足其亲密欲望方面面临不同的挑战。资源可以帮助男同性恋者应对这些明显相互冲突的欲望，并就他们的关系和/或性约定做出合适的选择。
