Chauncey S
Social Services Department, Massachusetts General Hospital, Boston 02114.
Soc Work. 1994 Nov;39(6):669-76.
Many men are discovering that they are involved with women who were sexually abused as children. However, male partners of female sexual abuse survivors have thus far received little attention in the literature. As these men increasingly seek treatment with concerns of their own, social workers must become familiar with their emotional experiences and treatment needs. This article outlines the major concerns expressed by 20 male partners of sexual abuse survivors. These concerns included conflicts about expressing needs, frustration with various aspects of their relationships, guilt and shame at having feelings, questions about how to deal with relatives, and sexual issues. The author recommends a treatment approach that combines attention to both the individual's and the couple's concerns and uses insight and the safety of the therapeutic relationship to promote growth. The importance of further outreach to partners of women who were sexually abused as children and the need for increased attention to other partner populations are highlighted.
许多男性发现他们的伴侣是童年时期遭受过性虐待的女性。然而，到目前为止，女性性虐待幸存者的男性伴侣在文献中很少受到关注。随着这些男性越来越多地因自身问题寻求治疗，社会工作者必须熟悉他们的情感经历和治疗需求。本文概述了20位性虐待幸存者的男性伴侣所表达的主要担忧。这些担忧包括表达需求时的冲突、对关系各方面的挫败感、因有某些感受而产生的内疚和羞耻感、如何与亲属相处的问题以及性方面的问题。作者推荐了一种治疗方法，该方法既关注个人的担忧，也关注伴侣双方的担忧，并利用洞察力和治疗关系中的安全感来促进成长。文中强调了进一步拓展与童年时期遭受性虐待女性的伴侣的联系的重要性，以及增加对其他伴侣群体关注的必要性。
