Fingerman K L
Stanford University, School of Medicine, USA.
Psychol Aging. 1995 Dec;10(4):639-49. doi: 10.1037//0882-7974.10.4.639.
Aging parents tend to perceive greater compatibility between themselves and offspring than do off-spring, but there is little research examining differences in perceptions of conflicts. Ninety-six older mothers (M age = 76) and their daughters (M age = 44) together selected a conflictual incident, then individually rated the degree to which they and the other person had engaged in destructive, constructive, or avoidant conflict behaviors. Mothers and daughters reported using constructive approaches more than other approaches. Mothers claimed to engage in constructive behaviors more than daughters recognized. Daughters reported engaging in destructive and avoidant behaviors more than mothers realized. Mothers also thought daughters felt better about the incident than daughters reported feeling about it. Findings suggest older mothers' underestimate daughters' negative behaviors and feelings in conflict situations.
与子女相比，年迈的父母往往觉得自己与子女之间的兼容性更强，但很少有研究探讨双方在冲突认知上的差异。96位老年母亲（平均年龄76岁）及其女儿（平均年龄44岁）共同挑选了一起冲突事件，然后各自对自己和对方采取的破坏性、建设性或回避性冲突行为的程度进行评分。母亲和女儿报告称，她们使用建设性方法的频率高于其他方法。母亲声称自己采取建设性行为的频率高于女儿所认可的程度。女儿报告称，自己采取破坏性和回避性行为的频率高于母亲所意识到的程度。母亲们还认为，女儿对该事件的感受比女儿自己报告的感受更好。研究结果表明，老年母亲低估了女儿在冲突情境中的负面行为和感受。
