Pruett M K, Pruett K D
Department of Psychiatry and Yale Child Study Center, Yale School of Medicine, New Haven, Connecticut, USA.
Child Adolesc Psychiatr Clin N Am. 1998 Apr;7(2):389-407, viii.
To minimize many of the negative consequences of divorce, it is beneficial to support a father's ongoing involvement in his child's life. Although the research literature isn't unequivocal on this point, it does strongly suggest that men who are "visitors" do not have as much impact on their children and that visits are a poor substitute for having a parental figure. The answer lies in creating meaningful roles for noncustodial fathers that elevate men's opportunities to contribute to their children's overall development. One of the most important messages parents can impart to children is that some commitments outlive change and that working together in the child's best interests is one of them.
为尽量减少离婚带来的诸多负面影响,支持父亲持续参与孩子的生活是有益的。尽管研究文献在这一点上并非毫无争议,但确实有力地表明,只是“探视”孩子的父亲对孩子的影响不如前者,而且探视远不能替代有一个家长角色。答案在于为非监护方父亲创造有意义的角色,以增加他们为孩子的全面发展做出贡献的机会。父母可以向孩子传递的最重要信息之一是,有些承诺不会因变化而改变,为孩子的最大利益共同努力就是其中之一。