Weisman A D
Massachusetts General Hospital, Boston.
J Health Care Chaplain. 1992;4(1-2):23-8. doi: 10.1300/j080v04n01_04.
Coping with cancer from the patient's or counselor's viewpoint means that strengths and resources depend on assessing predominant problems and acting appropriately to alleviate them. It does not always mean resolution of problems, but it does require understanding where the pressure points are that lead to more distress. Thus, counselors anticipate as well as understand actual distress; visualize various outcomes of different interventions, medical or otherwise; and narrow the gap between what is hoped for and what might be possible. Pastoral counseling needs a viewpoint that maintains morale in the utmost phase of terminal illness. Facing mortality is difficult for the counselor as well as significant others. Therefore, they must deal directly with bereavement and potential loss, if possible, indicating their willingness to confront ultimate questions, even without answers. Overall, the purpose of quality counseling is in the counselor: limitation is not futility. The job of counseling is not to figure out the universe or explain the unexplainable. Rather, the purpose of counseling is to help a suffering individual to come back within the range of normalized behavior and to become acceptable and credible. In this way, out of the web of vulnerability can come further strengths and resources.
从患者或咨询师的角度来看,应对癌症意味着优势和资源取决于评估主要问题并采取适当行动来缓解这些问题。这并不总是意味着解决问题,但确实需要了解导致更多痛苦的压力点在哪里。因此,咨询师既要预见也要理解实际的痛苦;设想不同干预措施(医疗或其他方面)的各种结果;并缩小期望与可能实现之间的差距。临终关怀咨询需要一种在绝症的最末期维持患者士气的观点。面对死亡对咨询师以及重要他人来说都很困难。因此,他们必须尽可能直接地应对丧亲之痛和潜在的损失,表明他们愿意面对终极问题,即使没有答案。总体而言,优质咨询的目的在于咨询师本身:有限并不意味着徒劳。咨询的工作不是去弄清楚宇宙或解释无法解释的事情。相反,咨询的目的是帮助一个受苦的个体回归到正常行为的范围之内,并变得可接受且可信。通过这种方式,从脆弱的网络中可以产生更多的优势和资源。