Dietrich P J, McWilliam C L, Ralyea S F, Schweitzer A T
Faculty of Health Sciences-School of Nursing, University of Western Ontario, London.
Can J Nurs Res. 1999 Sep;31(2):77-101.
The purpose of this investigation was to describe adult women's experiences in losing their mother. Using an interpretive phenomenological frame of inquiry, 5 women were purposively selected to share their loss experience. Memories of the mother-daughter relationship were explored, and the meanings the daughters attached to their loss described, in written narratives, 2 in-depth interviews, and 1 group session. Seven themes emerged: Recalling, Holding On, Saying Goodbye, Longings of the Heart, Shifting Patterns of Relationship, Recreating the Dialogue, and Honouring Our Mothers/Ourselves. The loss of one's mother represents the loss of one's first intimate relationship, a relationship that has a unique meaning for daughters because their personal development is profoundly and uniquely shaped by it. This potentially pervasive and transforming life experience is best understood from an in-depth exploration and understanding of the nature of the mother-daughter relationship. Nurses who come to understand the dynamic interaction of grief and development through women's experience of mother-loss can more successfully offer their presence, their understanding of the complexity of the mother-daughter relationship, and their skills in bereavement care to facilitate healing and to promote health and personal growth.
本调查的目的是描述成年女性失去母亲的经历。采用解释现象学的探究框架，有目的地选取了5名女性来分享她们的丧亲经历。通过书面叙述、两次深度访谈和一次小组讨论，探究了母女关系的记忆，并描述了女儿们对丧亲之痛赋予的意义。出现了七个主题：回忆、坚守、道别、内心渴望、关系模式的转变、重新建立对话以及纪念我们的母亲/我们自己。失去母亲意味着失去一个人最初的亲密关系，这种关系对女儿们有着独特的意义，因为她们的个人发展深受其深刻而独特的塑造。这种潜在的普遍且具有变革性的生活经历，最好通过对母女关系本质的深入探索和理解来把握。通过女性丧母经历而理解悲伤与成长动态互动的护士，能够更成功地给予陪伴，理解母女关系的复杂性，并运用她们在丧亲护理方面的技能来促进治愈，推动健康和个人成长。
