Whitman-Raymond Lee
Simmons College School of Social Work, USA.
Am J Psychoanal. 2005 Dec;65(4):341-52. doi: 10.1007/s11231-005-7886-5.
This paper explores the relationships between experienced defect and the subsequent shame and longing for recognition. A clinical vignette is presented in which a young woman sought treatment for her infidelity to her husband: a behavior she found totally mystifying and deeply troubling. Using Bollas' concept of "the unthought known," parallels are drawn between this patient, who was adopted at 2 weeks of age, and Oedipus' experience of knowing and not knowing his fate. A case is made for the idea that we both avoid and seek to know what is unbearable about ourselves, including our sense of defects. One motivation for this is the longing to be seen, recognized, known, and, finally, know one's self.
本文探讨了经历过的缺陷与随后的羞耻感以及对认可的渴望之间的关系。文中呈现了一个临床案例：一名年轻女子因对丈夫不忠而寻求治疗，她觉得自己的这种行为完全令人费解且深感困扰。运用博拉思的“未被思考的已知”概念，将这名在两周大时被收养的患者与俄狄浦斯知晓与不知晓自己命运的经历进行了类比。文章论证了这样一种观点，即我们既回避又试图去了解自身难以承受的方面，包括我们的缺陷感。这样做的一个动机是渴望被看见、被认可、被了解，最终是认识自己。
