Department of Psychology, University of Western Ontario, London, Ontario, Canada.
J Pers Soc Psychol. 2013 Aug;105(2):217-33. doi: 10.1037/a0033009. Epub 2013 May 27.
Guided by the ideal standards model (Simpson, Fletcher, & Campbell, 2001), we tested in 2 studies whether (a) individuals were accurate when inferring how closely they matched their romantic partner's ideal standards, (b) such accurate inferences explained why people are more satisfied when they more closely match their partner's ideals, and (c) accurate inferences are generated via the partner's behavior during conflict interactions. Both members of dating and/or married couples were recruited for each study. In both studies, people's inferences into how closely they matched their partner's ideals were based on a blend of accuracy and projection processes. Individuals were also less satisfied when they failed to match their partner's ideal standards (as rated by their partner), and, as predicted, this effect was mediated by people's accurate inferences regarding how closely they matched their partner's ideals. In Study 2, spouses were also video-recorded while they attempted to resolve an important marital conflict. As predicted, Partner A's prediscussion ideal discrepancies predicted pre- to postdiscussion changes in Partner B's inferences, and this effect was partly mediated by the observed interpersonal behaviors of Partner A. Results from these dyadic data analyses suggest that people do have accurate insight into the extent to which they match their partner's ideal standards, and these inferences are generated, in part, by the way the partner behaves toward the self during diagnostic conflict interactions.
在理想标准模型（Simpson、Fletcher 和 Campbell，2001）的指导下，我们在两项研究中检验了以下内容：（a）个体在推断自己与浪漫伴侣的理想标准有多匹配时是否准确；（b）如此准确的推断是否可以解释为什么当人们更符合伴侣的理想时，他们会更满意；（c）准确的推断是否是通过伴侣在冲突互动期间的行为产生的。每一项研究都招募了约会和/或已婚夫妇的双方成员。在这两项研究中，人们对自己与伴侣理想的契合程度的推断基于准确性和投射过程的混合。当人们未能符合伴侣的理想标准（由伴侣评定）时，他们也会感到不满，而且正如预期的那样，这种效果是由人们对自己与伴侣理想的契合程度的准确推断介导的。在研究 2 中，当配偶试图解决一个重要的婚姻冲突时，他们也被录像记录。正如预期的那样，在讨论之前，伴侣 A 的理想差异预测了在讨论前后伴侣 B 的推断变化，而这种影响部分是由伴侣 A 在观察到的人际行为介导的。这些对偶数据分析的结果表明，人们确实对自己与伴侣的理想标准的匹配程度有准确的洞察力，这些推断部分是通过伴侣在诊断冲突互动中对自己的行为方式产生的。
