Department of Human and Social Sciences, Catholic University of Milan, Italy.
J Fam Psychol. 2013 Aug;27(4):541-9. doi: 10.1037/a0032897. Epub 2013 Jun 17.
This study investigates self-forgiveness for real hurts committed against the partner in a romantic relationship (N = 168 couples). Using a dyadic perspective, we evaluated whether offender self-forgiveness, conceived as a bidimensional construct distinct from self-excusing, was uniquely related to both own and partner relationship satisfaction. For both males and females, offending partners were more satisfied with their romantic relationship to the extent that they had more positive and less negative sentiment and thoughts toward themselves, whereas victimized partners were more satisfied with the relationship when the offending partner had less negative sentiment and thoughts (but not more positive ones) toward himself/herself. The implications of these findings for understanding self-forgiveness and its pro-relationship effects in romantic couples are discussed.
本研究调查了在浪漫关系中（N=168 对伴侣）对伴侣实际伤害的自我宽恕。本研究采用对偶视角，评估了作为与自我原谅不同的二维结构的冒犯者自我宽恕是否与自己和伴侣的关系满意度有独特的关系。对于男性和女性来说，冒犯伴侣对他们的浪漫关系越满意，他们对自己的积极情绪和想法就越多，而消极情绪和想法就越少，而受害伴侣对关系的满意度越高，当冒犯伴侣对自己的消极情绪和想法越少（但不是更多的积极情绪和想法）时。这些发现对理解浪漫伴侣中的自我宽恕及其促进关系的影响具有启示意义。
