Kim Jinhyung, Hong Emily K, Choi Incheol, Hicks Joshua A
Texas A&M University, College Station, USA
Queen's University, Kingston, Ontario, Canada.
Pers Soc Psychol Bull. 2016 Mar;42(3):311-22. doi: 10.1177/0146167216629120.
Which friend do you want to spend time with-a happy friend who performs better than you or an unhappy friend who performs worse than you? The present research demonstrates that in such conflicting situations, when the desires for companionship and comparison are pitted against each other, one's level of happiness plays an important role in one's choice. Using hypothetical scenarios, we found that compared with unhappy people, happy people expected that spending time with a happy, superior friend would be more pleasant than spending time with an unhappy, inferior friend (Studies 1B through 2) and were more willing to socialize with a happy, superior friend than with an unhappy, inferior friend (Studies 1B through 2). Moreover, this pattern was not explained by self-esteem (Study 2) or the similarity-attraction hypothesis (Study 3). The present findings suggest that happy people place more value on companionship than on comparison.
你想和哪位朋友共度时光呢——是比你表现更好的开心朋友,还是比你表现更差的不开心朋友?当前的研究表明,在这种冲突情境中,当陪伴需求和比较需求相互对立时,一个人的幸福水平在其选择中起着重要作用。通过假设情景,我们发现,与不开心的人相比,开心的人预计和开心且优秀的朋友共度时光会比和不开心且差劲的朋友共度时光更愉快(研究1B至2),并且更愿意与开心且优秀的朋友而非不开心且差劲的朋友交往(研究1B至2)。此外,这种模式无法用自尊(研究2)或相似性吸引假说(研究3)来解释。当前的研究结果表明,开心的人更看重陪伴而非比较。