Balzarini Rhonda N, Muise Amy, Dobson Kiersten, Kohut Taylor, Raposo Stephanie, Campbell Lorne
Department of Psychology, York University.
Department of Psychology, University of Western Ontario.
J Pers Soc Psychol. 2021 Jun;120(6):1521-1550. doi: 10.1037/pspi0000323. Epub 2021 Feb 4.
Despite the importance of sex for the maintenance of satisfying romantic relationships, our understanding of a person's sexual ideals-the traits and attributes a person desires in a sexual partner or experience-and what might buffer against lower satisfaction associated with unmet sexual ideals is limited. Across four studies including cross-sectional, dyadic, longitudinal, and experimental methods (N = 1,532), we draw on the Ideal Standards Model and theories of communal motivation to examine whether unmet sexual ideals are associated with lower sexual satisfaction and relationship quality and test whether higher sexual communal strength-the motivation to meet a partner's sexual needs-buffered these effects. Across studies, when individuals perceived their partner to fall short in meeting their sexual ideals, they reported poorer sexual and relationship quality. People with partners low in sexual communal strength reported poorer sexual satisfaction and relationship quality when their sexual ideals were unmet, but these associations were attenuated among people with partners who were high in sexual communal strength. Perceived partner responsiveness-both in general (Study 2) and to a partner's sexual needs specifically (Study 3)-was one reason why people with partners high in sexual communal strength were buffered against the lower sexual and relational quality associated with unmet ideals. (PsycInfo Database Record (c) 2021 APA, all rights reserved).
尽管性对于维持令人满意的浪漫关系很重要，但我们对一个人的性理想（即一个人在性伴侣或性体验中所期望的特质和属性）以及什么可能缓冲与未实现的性理想相关的较低满意度的理解是有限的。在包括横断面研究、二元研究、纵向研究和实验方法在内的四项研究中（N = 1532），我们借鉴理想标准模型和共同动机理论，来检验未实现性理想是否与较低的性满意度和关系质量相关，并测试较高的性共同力量（即满足伴侣性需求的动机）是否能缓冲这些影响。在各项研究中，当个体认为其伴侣在满足他们的性理想方面存在不足时，他们报告的性和关系质量较差。性共同力量较低的伴侣的人，当他们的性理想未得到满足时，报告的性满意度和关系质量较差，但在性共同力量较高的伴侣的人中，这些关联减弱了。伴侣的总体反应性（研究2）以及对伴侣性需求的具体反应性（研究3）是性共同力量较高的伴侣的人能够缓冲与未实现理想相关的较低性和关系质量的一个原因。（PsycInfo数据库记录（c）2021美国心理学会，保留所有权利）
