Fernet Mylène, Désilets Laura, Hébert Martine, Cousineau Marie-Marthe
Department of sexology, Université du Québec à Montréal, C.P. 8888, Succursale Centre-Ville, Montréal, Québec, Canada.
School of criminology, Université de Montréal, Montréal, Canada.
J Child Adolesc Trauma. 2019 Sep 12;14(1):41-50. doi: 10.1007/s40653-019-00289-7. eCollection 2021 Mar.
The present study focused on the informal help-seeking process, facilitators and barriers in the context of romantic relationship difficulties and dating violence (DV). This study also aimed to describe gender specificities involved in the help-seeking process. Data analysis was performed relying on the help-seeking and change model developed for intimate partner violence (, 71-84, 2005). A direct content analysis was conducted on semi-structured interviews of 80 youths. All participants reported having experienced at least one romantic relationship difficulty and half of them reported at least one experience of DV victimization in their current romantic relationship. Motives to seek support and help were mentioned by the participants, namely the need to be advised on how to solve their difficulties, to express their emotions and vent about their feelings, to obtain an external point of view, to be listened to and comforted, and to be validated on their interpretation of the situation. When experiencing difficulties, participants chose confidants according to the following qualities: share bond of trust, similar experiences, mutual help and reciprocity, relevant experiences in dating relationships, and a context of respect and non-judgment. Reluctance to ask for help was expressed by participants, namely discomfort about sharing intimate information or revealing feelings to a friend or family member, lack of support, and fear of being judged or vulnerable. Findings highlight the strategic role of peers and the importance of offering them tools to intervene as first responders in DV situations.
本研究聚焦于恋爱关系困扰和约会暴力（DV）背景下的非正式求助过程、促进因素和障碍。本研究还旨在描述求助过程中涉及的性别特异性。数据分析依据为亲密伴侣暴力开发的求助与改变模型（，71 - 84，2005）进行。对80名青少年的半结构化访谈进行了直接内容分析。所有参与者都报告称经历过至少一次恋爱关系困扰，其中一半人报告在当前恋爱关系中至少有过一次约会暴力受害经历。参与者提到了寻求支持和帮助的动机，即需要就如何解决困难获得建议、表达情绪并宣泄感受、获得外部观点、被倾听和安慰，以及其对情况的解读得到认可。遇到困难时，参与者根据以下特质选择知己：有信任纽带、有相似经历、互助互惠、在恋爱关系中有相关经历，以及尊重且不评判的氛围。参与者表达了不愿求助的情况，即在向朋友或家人分享私密信息或表露感受时感到不适、缺乏支持，以及害怕被评判或变得脆弱。研究结果凸显了同伴的战略作用以及为他们提供工具以便在约会暴力情况下作为第一响应者进行干预的重要性。
