Constantino Christopher Dominick
Florida State University, USA.
J Fluency Disord. 2025 Mar;83:106104. doi: 10.1016/j.jfludis.2025.106104. Epub 2025 Jan 28.
For us to love each other we must first know each other. We come to know each other through communication, the purpose of which is communion. Traditionally, we think of stuttering as impairing this communion. Stuttering prevents us from sharing ourselves with others by distorting our message and increasing the effort it takes for us to speak. This need not be the case. Our stuttering is as much a part of us as any other attribute. For others to know us deeply, they must also know our stuttering. Likewise, for us to know others, we must know how they react to us - all of us - including our stuttering. In this paper, I propose that by stuttering openly and sincerely we share more of ourselves with others and, therefore, enter a deeper communion than would be possible if we hid our disfluencies. Stuttering introduces vulnerability into our conversations that would be absent had we been fluent. This vulnerability, when reciprocated, allows for intimacy. Research demonstrates that our stuttering impacts us less negatively when we are more open and speak with more spontaneity. By embracing our stutters, we not only lessen the negative impact of stuttering, but we also increase our ability to know, and therefore, love each other.
为了彼此相爱，我们首先必须相互了解。我们通过交流来相互了解，而交流的目的是交融。传统上，我们认为口吃会损害这种交融。口吃通过扭曲我们的信息并增加我们说话所需的努力，使我们无法与他人分享自己。但情况不一定如此。我们的口吃与其他任何特质一样，都是我们的一部分。为了让他人深入了解我们，他们也必须了解我们的口吃。同样，为了我们了解他人，我们必须知道他们如何回应我们——所有人，包括我们的口吃。在本文中，我提出通过公开而真诚地口吃，我们能与他人更多地分享自己，因此，比起隐藏我们的不流畅，能进入更深层次的交融。口吃将脆弱带入我们的对话中，而如果我们说话流畅，这种脆弱是不会存在的。当这种脆弱得到回应时，就能产生亲密感。研究表明，当我们更加开放且更自然地说话时，口吃对我们的负面影响就会更小。通过接纳我们的口吃，我们不仅减少了口吃的负面影响，还增强了我们了解彼此进而相爱的能力。
