Alexander Mallika, Garda Laila, Kanade Savita, Jejeebhoy Shireen, Ganatra Bela
Research Scientist, KEM Hospital Research Centre, Pune, India.
Reprod Health Matters. 2006 Nov;14(28):144-55. doi: 10.1016/S0968-8080(06)28265-X.
Using qualitative and survey data in a rural and an urban slum setting in Pune district, India, this paper describes patterns of pre-marital romantic partnerships among young people aged 15-24, in spite of norms that discourage opposite-sex interaction before marriage. 25-40% of young men and 14-17% of young women reported opposite-sex friends. Most young people devised strategies to interact with others, largely from the same neighbourhood. There were wide gender differences with regard to making or receiving romantic proposals, having a romantic partner and experiencing hand-holding, kissing and sexual relations. For those who engaged in sexual relations, the time from the onset of the partnership to having sexual relations was short. Sex most often took place without protection or communication, and for a disturbing minority of young women only after persuasion or without consent. Among those who were unmarried, a large percentage had expected to marry their romantic partner, but for a third of young women and half of young men the relationship had been discontinued. Partnership formation often leads to physical intimacy, but intimacy should be wanted, informed and safe. Findings call for programmes that inform youth in non-threatening, non-judgmental and confidential ways, respect their sexual rights and equip them to make safe choices and negotiate wanted outcomes.
利用印度浦那地区农村和城市贫民窟的定性和调查数据，本文描述了15至24岁年轻人婚前浪漫伴侣关系的模式，尽管存在婚前异性交往的规范。25%至40%的年轻男性和14%至17%的年轻女性报告有异性朋友。大多数年轻人想出了与他人交往的策略，主要是来自同一社区的人。在提出或接受浪漫求婚、拥有浪漫伴侣以及经历牵手、亲吻和性关系方面，存在很大的性别差异。对于那些发生过性关系的人来说，从建立伴侣关系到发生性关系的时间很短。性行为大多在没有保护措施或沟通的情况下发生，令人不安的是，少数年轻女性只有在被劝说或未经同意的情况下才会发生性行为。在未婚者中，很大一部分人原本期望与他们的浪漫伴侣结婚，但三分之一的年轻女性和一半的年轻男性的关系已经中断。伴侣关系的形成往往会导致身体亲密接触，但亲密接触应该是双方自愿、知情且安全的。研究结果呼吁开展相关项目，以无威胁、无评判和保密的方式向年轻人提供信息，尊重他们的性权利，使他们能够做出安全的选择并协商出理想的结果。
