1Emerson College, Boston, MA, USA.
Pers Soc Psychol Bull. 2014 Feb;40(2):164-74. doi: 10.1177/0146167213507779. Epub 2013 Oct 16.
Although close relationships require partners to depend on one another for mutual responsiveness, avoidantly attached individuals are especially averse to risking such dependency. The authors propose that both avoidant and non-avoidant individuals perceive signs of their own and their partners' responsiveness in ways that reflect motivated perceptions of dependency. The present research examined how the interplay between spouses' attachment avoidance and observed responsive behaviors during marital conflict shaped perceptions of their own and their partners' responsiveness. Newlywed couples attempted to resolve a relationship conflict and then reported perceptions of their own and their partners' responsiveness during the conflict. Observers also coded both partners' responsive behaviors during the conflict. Avoidant spouses perceived themselves as less responsive, especially when observers rated them as more responsive; avoidant spouses also perceived their partners as less responsive. The discussion highlights the role of attachment in understanding links between responsiveness-related perceptions and behaviors.
虽然亲密关系需要伴侣相互依存以保持彼此的回应，但回避型依恋的人尤其害怕承担这种依赖关系的风险。作者提出，回避型和非回避型依恋的人感知自己和伴侣回应的方式反映了对依赖关系的有动机的感知。本研究考察了配偶回避依恋和观察到的婚姻冲突期间的回应行为之间的相互作用如何影响对自己和伴侣回应的感知。新婚夫妇试图解决关系冲突，然后报告在冲突期间对自己和伴侣回应的感知。观察者还对冲突期间双方的回应行为进行了编码。回避型配偶认为自己的回应性较差，尤其是当观察者认为他们的回应性较高时；回避型配偶也认为他们的伴侣回应性较差。讨论强调了依恋在理解回应性相关感知和行为之间联系中的作用。
