Rose Suzanna M, Zand Debra
a Florida International University , USA.
J Lesbian Stud. 2002;6(1):85-109. doi: 10.1300/J155v06n01_09.
Abstract Lesbian dating and courtship were explored based on interviews with 38 predominantly white lesbians (ages 22-63) representing young adult, adult, and midlife age groups. Friendship was found to be the most widely used courtship script across all age groups, followed by the sexually explicit and romance scripts, with friendship and romance scripts being preferred. Unique aspects of lesbian dating cited by participants included freedom from gender roles, heightened intimacy/friendship, the rapid pace of lesbian relationship development, and the effects of prejudice. Friendship was found to be differentiated from romance by two main criteria: emotional intensity and sexual energy or contact. Verbal declarations of interest and nonverbal behaviors were the primary means of communicating sexual attraction. Few lesbians adhered to traditional gender roles in dating, and those who reported assuming the feminine reactive role nevertheless rejected the traditional notion that women should limit sexual contact. Overall, midlife lesbians were more purposive in their dating and more free from gender roles. Specifically, they were more concerned about the "attachment-worthiness" of a prospective partner and were significantly more likely than young adults to view dating as having a serious goal, to proceed at a rapid pace, to ask for a date, and to initiate physical intimacy.
基于对38名主要为白人的女同性恋者（年龄在22 - 63岁之间，代表青年、成年和中年年龄组）的访谈，对女同性恋者的约会和求爱进行了探讨。研究发现，在所有年龄组中，友谊是最广泛使用的求爱模式，其次是露骨的性模式和浪漫模式，其中友谊和浪漫模式更受青睐。参与者提到的女同性恋约会的独特方面包括摆脱性别角色、增强的亲密感/友谊、女同性恋关系发展的快速节奏以及偏见的影响。研究发现，友谊与浪漫在两个主要标准上有所区别：情感强度和性能量或接触。表达兴趣的言语声明和非言语行为是传达性吸引力的主要方式。很少有女同性恋者在约会中遵循传统性别角色，那些报告承担女性被动角色的人仍然拒绝女性应限制性接触的传统观念。总体而言，中年女同性恋者在约会中更有目的性，也更能摆脱性别角色。具体来说，她们更关心潜在伴侣的“值得依恋性”，并且比年轻人更有可能认为约会有严肃的目标，进展迅速，主动提出约会，并开始身体上的亲密接触。
