Steinberger C B
Psychoanal Rev. 1989 Spring;76(1):1-18.
The "crossroads families" are caught between old value systems and American mainstream goals. Traditional family and sex-related roles and orientations conflict with those of the new social system. In turn, neither of the teenager's orientations--toward home or toward peer activity--is validated. In the clinical case presented, Anna, at adolescence, wants to relinquish many of her household chores and enter her social world more fully. She needs unconflictual support for such a move. If this does not take place, her autonomous movement represents an unconscious betrayal of her depleted and controlling mother as well as an abandonment of the parental coalition. This leaves her feeling resentful, guilty, and ultimately unlovable. Attitudes marked by helplessness and confusion are thus significant to the depressed affect that brings this teenager into family therapy. Teenagers of non-Hispanic background who enter family therapy reveal gross overlap with teenagers of the Hispanic "crossroads" family model. Here, the family gives mixed messages for homebound and intimate closeness as well as accomplishment in the societal mainstream. A primary difference between ethnic groups involves the freer expressions of anger and pain between husband and wife in the non-Hispanic families. This is not similar to the backgrounds of the more individuated Hispanic teenagers. While more open expressions of anger within the family do indicate higher levels of autonomy, the hostility that is expressed by the parents presents serious complications when this includes "triangulating" the child into the family tension. Here, as cited, the mother often uses her daughter as a confidant and ally at times of severe parental discord. This places additional strain on the child's conflict with separation. Importantly, the daughter experiences renewed rejection and betrayal when the mother "submits" to her spouse. These are significant family processes that heighten mixed messages around autonomy. Milagros, a depressed (more individuated) adolescent, is consistently entangled into her parent's abrasive relationship. Her interpersonal family struggles have become intrapsychic and, ultimately, transferential.
“十字路口家庭”夹在旧的价值体系和美国主流目标之间。传统的家庭及与性相关的角色和取向与新社会体系的角色和取向相互冲突。相应地,青少年对于家庭或同伴活动的两种取向都未得到认可。在所呈现的临床案例中,青春期的安娜想要摆脱许多家务,更充分地融入她的社交世界。她需要这种转变得到无冲突的支持。如果这种支持没有出现,她的自主行动就代表着对疲惫且控制欲强的母亲的无意识背叛,以及对父母联盟的抛弃。这让她感到怨恨、内疚,最终觉得自己不可爱。以无助和困惑为特征的态度对于导致这名青少年接受家庭治疗的抑郁情绪而言意义重大。进入家庭治疗的非西班牙裔背景青少年与西班牙裔“十字路口”家庭模式的青少年有明显重叠。在这里,家庭对于居家和亲密关系以及在社会主流中取得成就给出了矛盾的信息。不同种族群体之间的一个主要差异在于,非西班牙裔家庭中夫妻之间愤怒和痛苦的表达更为自由。这与更具个性的西班牙裔青少年的背景不同。虽然家庭中更开放的愤怒表达确实表明自主性水平更高,但当父母的敌意表现为将孩子“卷入”家庭紧张关系时,就会带来严重的问题。如前所述,母亲在父母严重不和时经常把女儿当作知己和盟友。这给孩子的分离冲突带来了额外压力。重要的是,当母亲“顺从”丈夫时,女儿会再次感到被拒绝和背叛。这些都是重要的家庭过程,加剧了围绕自主性的矛盾信息。米拉格罗斯是一名抑郁(更具个性)的青少年,她一直深陷于父母的摩擦关系中。她在家庭中的人际斗争已内化为心理问题,最终变成了移情问题。