Koudenburg Namkje, Gordijn Ernestine H, Postmes Tom
University of Groningen, The Netherlands
University of Groningen, The Netherlands.
Pers Soc Psychol Bull. 2014 Nov;40(11):1517-28. doi: 10.1177/0146167214549945. Epub 2014 Sep 9.
Conversations are susceptible to many disturbances: A speaker's hesitations, distractions, or, when communicating online, technical hiccups that may cause brief delays. Research among previously unacquainted individuals revealed that brief disruptions in conversational flow can have profound social consequences: Silences or delays in mediated communication threaten the need to belong and validate one's ideas. The present research, however, shows that when occurring in close relationships, flow disruptions may be ironically beneficial. We hypothesized that when flow disruptions occur, partners fall back on their relationship beliefs to infer mutual agreement and the existence of a shared reality. When a relationship is perceived as secure, partners may believe that "no words are needed" to understand each other. Flow disruptions can thus paradoxically make shared cognitions accessible and foster feelings of social validation. Data from two experiments, using partners in different types of relationships, supported this hypothesis.
说话者的犹豫、分心，或者在在线交流时可能导致短暂延迟的技术故障。对之前互不相识的个体进行的研究表明，对话流畅性的短暂中断可能会产生深远的社会影响：中介交流中的沉默或延迟会威胁到归属感和对自身想法的认可需求。然而，目前的研究表明，当这种情况发生在亲密关系中时，流畅性中断可能会产生意想不到的益处。我们假设，当流畅性中断发生时，伴侣会依靠他们的关系信念来推断彼此的共识以及共享现实的存在。当一段关系被认为是安全的时，伴侣可能会相信彼此“无需言语”就能理解对方。因此，流畅性中断可能会反常地使共享认知变得可及，并增强社会认可感。来自两项实验的数据，涉及不同类型关系中的伴侣，支持了这一假设。
