Livingston Jacques, Fourie Eduard
a Department of Psychology , University of South Africa , Pretoria , South Africa.
J Homosex. 2016 Dec;63(12):1630-1659. doi: 10.1080/00918369.2016.1158009. Epub 2016 Mar 1.
Gay men's relationships with their mothers are likely to be more positive than their relationships with their fathers, and fathers are less likely to be told, less likely to be told first, and more likely to react negatively to disclosure than mothers. Drawing on an interpretivist approach, an individual in-depth interview strategy was adopted in the study as a means of gathering data from six Afrikaans-speaking White fathers, between the ages of 53 and 61 years (median: 55.5 years), residing in Gauteng, South Africa. Interviews were audio-recorded and transcribed for later coding and analysis. Through thematic network analysis, eight organizing themes emerged and were explored. For the purpose of this article only three organizing themes are discussed, namely "subliminal awareness prior to coming out," "epistemic rupture of internal systems of ideas/beliefs," and "acceptance as a complex and ongoing dialectical and reconciliatory process." The themes support the view that most parents are neither totally rejecting nor fully accepting of their gay sons. Although the fathers may have attained a level of "loving denial" in the relationships with their gay sons, most continue to struggle with the meaning and expression of same-sex sexuality. Despite these challenges, it is recognized that the fathers are adapting to changing circumstances and are trying to find ways to tolerate, accommodate, and in some ways accept their gay sons.
男同性恋者与母亲的关系可能比他们与父亲的关系更积极，而且比起母亲，父亲被告知儿子同性恋身份的可能性更小，更不可能首先被告知，并且对儿子出柜的反应更可能是负面的。本研究采用解释主义方法，运用个人深度访谈策略，从居住在南非豪登省、年龄在53至61岁之间（中位数：55.5岁）的六位说南非荷兰语的白人父亲那里收集数据。访谈进行了录音并转录，以便后续编码和分析。通过主题网络分析，出现了八个组织主题并进行了探讨。本文仅讨论其中三个组织主题，即“出柜前的潜意识觉察”、“思想/信仰内部体系的认知断裂”以及“接受是一个复杂且持续的辩证与和解过程”。这些主题支持了这样一种观点，即大多数父母对自己的同性恋儿子既不是完全排斥也不是完全接受。尽管父亲们在与同性恋儿子的关系中可能达到了某种程度的“爱的否认”，但大多数人仍在为同性性行为的意义和表达而挣扎。尽管存在这些挑战，但人们认识到，父亲们正在适应不断变化的情况，并试图找到容忍、接纳以及在某些方面接受自己同性恋儿子的方法。
