School of Psychology, National University of Ireland , Galway, Ireland.
J Homosex. 2020 Jul 28;67(9):1213-1237. doi: 10.1080/00918369.2019.1585727. Epub 2019 Mar 20.
This study explores how Irish gay fathers, who married heterosexually in a heteronormative culture, assumed a settled gay identity in the Republic of Ireland. A purposive sample of nine men reflected on their experiences of marriage and separation, assuming a gay identity, and social and familial connectivity. Interpretative phenomenological analysis (IPA) indicated the suppression of gay sexual desires before marriage as a result of cultural homophobia. The coming-out process continued during the participants' marriage. Extramarital same-gender sexual desires and/or transgressions co-occurred with existential conflict (remorse) and resulted in marital separation. The marital and family loss was experienced as traumatic, and suicidal ideation occurred for most. All the men assumed an openly gay identity after separating. Many established a family-orientated same-gender repartnership. Results highlight the individuality and significance of the marital and family loss for those who separate after coming out as gay.
本研究探讨了在异性恋规范文化中异性婚姻的爱尔兰男同性恋者如何在爱尔兰共和国中确立稳定的同性恋身份。通过目的性抽样，九名男性回顾了他们的婚姻和分居经历、同性恋身份以及社会和家庭联系。解释性现象学分析（IPA）表明，由于文化恐同，他们在婚前抑制了同性恋欲望。在参与者的婚姻期间，出柜过程仍在继续。婚外同性性行为的欲望和/或越轨行为与存在冲突（悔恨）同时发生，导致婚姻破裂。婚姻和家庭的丧失被视为创伤性的，大多数人都出现了自杀念头。所有男性在分居后都确立了公开的同性恋身份。许多人建立了以家庭为导向的同性伴侣关系。研究结果强调了那些出柜后选择分居的人在婚姻和家庭方面的个体性和重要性。
