1 Northwestern University, Evanston, IL, USA.
Pers Soc Psychol Bull. 2018 Mar;44(3):318-331. doi: 10.1177/0146167217739263. Epub 2017 Nov 14.
People often pursue self-change, and having a romantic partner who supports these changes increases relationship satisfaction. However, most existing research focuses only on the experience of the person who is changing. What predicts whether people support their partner's change? People with low self-concept clarity resist self-change, so we hypothesized that they would be unsupportive of their partner's changes. People with low self-concept clarity did not support their partner's change (Study 1a), because they thought they would have to change, too (Study 1b). Low self-concept clarity predicted failing to support a partner's change, but not vice versa (Studies 2 and 3), and only for larger changes (Study 3). Not supporting a partner's change predicted decreases in relationship quality for both members of the couple (Studies 2 and 3). This research underscores the role of partners in self-change, suggesting that failing to support a partner's change may stem from self-concept confusion.
人们常常追求自我改变,而拥有一个支持这些改变的浪漫伴侣会增加关系满意度。然而,大多数现有研究只关注正在改变的人的体验。那么,是什么预测了人们是否支持伴侣的改变呢?自我概念清晰度低的人抵制自我改变,因此我们假设他们不会支持伴侣的改变。自我概念清晰度低的人不支持伴侣的改变(研究 1a),因为他们认为自己也必须改变(研究 1b)。自我概念清晰度低预测了无法支持伴侣的改变,但反之则不然(研究 2 和 3),而且只适用于更大的改变(研究 3)。不支持伴侣的改变会预测夫妻双方关系质量的下降(研究 2 和 3)。这项研究强调了伴侣在自我改变中的作用,表明无法支持伴侣的改变可能源于自我概念的混乱。