Parker Gillian, Durante Kristina M, Hill Sarah E, Haselton Martie G
University of California, Los Angeles, Department of Communication, 2225 Rolfe Hall, Los Angeles, CA, 90095, USA.
Rutgers Business School-Newark and New Brunswick, 1 Washington Park, Newark, NJ, 07102, USA.
Curr Opin Psychol. 2022 Feb;43:300-306. doi: 10.1016/j.copsyc.2021.07.020. Epub 2021 Jul 31.
In Western dual-educated, male-female marriages, women who divorce face greater burdens because of decreased income and primary or sole responsibility for caring for children than men who divorce. Why, then, do these women initiate divorce more and fare better psychologically after a divorce than men? Here, we articulate an evolutionary mismatch perspective, informed by key findings in relationship science. We argue that mismatches between women's evolved preferences and configurations of modern marriage often clash, producing dissatisfaction. Women's unprecedented career ascendance also affords women ever more freedom to leave. We discuss pressures from social expectations for men and women that contribute to or compound these vulnerabilities. We conclude with key questions for future research, which can contribute to strategies for mitigating relationship dissatisfaction and the profound loss and pain that results from divorce.
在西方接受过双重教育的异性婚姻中，离婚女性面临的负担比离婚男性更大，因为她们收入减少，且承担着照顾孩子的主要或全部责任。那么，为什么这些女性比男性更频繁地提出离婚，并且在离婚后心理状态更好呢？在此，我们结合关系科学的关键发现，阐述一种进化不匹配的观点。我们认为，女性进化出的偏好与现代婚姻结构之间的不匹配常常发生冲突，从而产生不满情绪。女性前所未有的职业上升趋势也赋予了她们更多离开的自由。我们讨论了社会对男性和女性的期望所带来的压力，这些压力加剧或加重了这些脆弱性。我们最后提出了未来研究的关键问题，这些问题有助于制定策略，以减轻关系中的不满情绪以及离婚带来的巨大损失和痛苦。
