Zhang Wei, Guo Benyu
Department of Psychology, School of Education, China University of Geosciences, Wuhan, China.
School of Psychology, Nanjing Normal University, Nanjing, China.
Integr Psychol Behav Sci. 2025 Apr 21;59(2):41. doi: 10.1007/s12124-025-09909-4.
In this paper, we explore the question of how manipulative interactions may be transformed to healthier non-manipulative ones-or, in Buber's terms, move from an "I-It" to an "I-Thou" relationship. To address this question, we draw on Heidegger's viewpoint of pre-reflective practice, particularly his concepts "readiness-to-hand" and "presence-at-hand", and analyze the manipulative mode of interpersonal interaction through this lens. Building upon this framework while incorporating relevant psychoanalytic theories and case studies, we then identified boundary-setting as a crucial mechanism for navigating beyond interpersonal manipulation. Furthermore, the paper delves into four specific cases of self-other interaction to provide a deeper understanding of intersubjective dynamics and their implications for relational transformation.
在本文中，我们探讨了操纵性互动如何转变为更健康的非操纵性互动这一问题——或者用布伯的话来说，如何从“我—它”关系转变为“我—你”关系。为了解决这个问题，我们借鉴了海德格尔关于前反思性实践的观点，尤其是他的“上手状态”和“在手状态”概念，并通过这一视角分析人际互动的操纵模式。在这个框架的基础上，结合相关精神分析理论和案例研究，我们确定了设定边界是超越人际操纵的关键机制。此外，本文深入研究了四个自我与他人互动的具体案例，以更深入地理解主体间动态及其对关系转变的影响。
