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J Sex Marital Ther. 1976 Winter;2(4):273-6. doi: 10.1080/00926237608405332.
When a couple become erotically pair-bonded, whether for a night or a lifetime, they are by definition committed to each other erotically. That is the minimum. The degree varies. The commitment may be limited to the proceptive phase of solicitation or courtship, or it may include the acceptive phase of coitus, or it may extend to the conceptive phase of parenthood. People "fall in love with their fantasy" and project onto the partner a range of future commitments. If the partner fails to reciprocate, the pair-bond weakens and the partnership either dissolves or becomes eligible for marital counseling or sex therapy.
当一对伴侣建立起性伴侣关系时,无论这种关系是维持一晚还是一生,从定义上来说,他们在性方面相互承诺。这是最起码的。程度各有不同。这种承诺可能仅限于求爱或追求的接受阶段,可能包括性交的接受阶段,也可能延伸至为人父母的受孕阶段。人们“爱上自己的幻想”,并将一系列未来的承诺投射到伴侣身上。如果伴侣没有回应,伴侣关系就会削弱,这种关系要么解体,要么需要婚姻咨询或性治疗。