Wojcieszek Krzysztof Andrzej
Wydział Nauk Społecznych, Szkoła Wyzsza im. B. Jańskiego, ul. Elektronowa 2, Warszawa, Poland.
Med Wieku Rozwoj. 2003 Jan-Mar;7(1 Pt 2):65-74.
The paper describes the proposition of solution of a difficult dilemma concerning the real role of parents in the development of children in families with alcohol problem (alcohol misuse and dependency of parents). From one side drinking parents are the cause of serious destruction of child health and development. From the other side we have the data about positive influence of strong bonds between children and their parents in alcohol use prevention (parenting as protective factor). Original philosophical theory of person structure with additional theory of parenting supplies the possibility of the solution of the dilemma. It is necessary to differentiate the personal relationship and the emotions (and behaviours) as two different levels of bonding. Alcohol dependent parents have influence on both levels, they protect and make the risk at the same time. The proposal is that the protective influence is still more powerful and important, so it is necessary to protect bonds between children and their parents despite the fact of some lateral destruction. It is also necessary to confront parents with the effects of their behaviour (intervention, therapy) to develop their possibilities to renovate their parenting functions, which is necessary for effective prevention. The theory allows to understand the situation of the child in the alcohol family more precisely. It is especially important for social workers, teachers and therapists working with such families. Some rules for working with the children of alcoholics are formulated.
本文描述了解决一个棘手困境的提议,该困境涉及父母在有酒精问题(父母酗酒及酒精依赖)的家庭中对孩子成长所起的实际作用。一方面,酗酒的父母是孩子健康和成长严重受损的原因。另一方面,我们有数据表明孩子与父母之间紧密的联系对预防饮酒有积极影响(养育方式作为保护因素)。原创的人格结构哲学理论以及附加的养育理论为解决这一困境提供了可能。有必要区分人际关系以及情感(和行为)这两个不同层次的联系。酒精依赖的父母对这两个层次都有影响,他们在保护的同时也带来风险。提议是保护作用仍然更强大且更重要,所以尽管存在一些附带的损害,仍有必要保护孩子与父母之间的联系。还需要让父母面对其行为的影响(干预、治疗),以拓展他们恢复养育功能的能力,这对于有效预防至关重要。该理论有助于更准确地理解酗酒家庭中孩子的状况。这对与这类家庭打交道的社会工作者、教师和治疗师尤为重要。文中还制定了一些与酗酒者子女打交道的规则。