Mailman School of Public Health, Heilbrunn Department of Population and Family Health, Columbia University, 60 Haven Avenue B2, New York, NY 10032, USA.
Pers Soc Psychol Bull. 2013 Apr;39(4):456-69. doi: 10.1177/0146167213476896. Epub 2013 Feb 13.
Experiences of closeness in romantic relationships are associated with heightened levels of relational well-being and mental health. However, individuals differ in the degree of closeness they desire in their relationships. This study used the construct of inclusion of other in self (IOS) to analyze discrepancies between individuals' actual and ideal levels of closeness in their relationships and the implications of these discrepancies for relational well-being and mental health. A longitudinal survey of partnered individuals demonstrated that optimal levels of relational well-being and mental health existed when individuals had minimal discrepancies between actual and ideal IOS, regardless of their actual levels of IOS. Individuals whose actual levels of IOS moved closer to their ideal levels over a 2-year period reported improved relational well-being and mental health. Individuals with little to no discrepancies between actual and ideal IOS were also less likely to break-up with their partners over time.
在浪漫关系中体验到亲密感与更高水平的关系幸福感和心理健康有关。然而，个体之间在他们关系中渴望的亲密程度存在差异。本研究使用他人纳入自我的构念（IOS）来分析个体在关系中实际和理想亲密程度之间的差异，以及这些差异对关系幸福感和心理健康的影响。对伴侣个体的纵向调查表明，当个体在实际和理想 IOS 之间的差异最小时，存在最佳的关系幸福感和心理健康水平，而不管他们的实际 IOS 水平如何。在两年的时间里，IOS 的实际水平更接近理想水平的个体报告说，他们的关系幸福感和心理健康得到了改善。在实际和理想 IOS 之间几乎没有差异的个体，随着时间的推移，与伴侣分手的可能性也较小。
