Owen Jesse, Fincham Frank D, Manthos Megan
Education and Counseling Psychology Department, College of Education, University of Louisville, Louisville, KY, 40292, USA,
Arch Sex Behav. 2013 Nov;42(8):1443-9. doi: 10.1007/s10508-013-0160-7. Epub 2013 Aug 24.
Friends with benefits (FWB) relationships are formed by an integration of friendship and sexual intimacy, typically without the explicit commitments characteristic of an exclusive romantic relationship. The majority of these relationships do not transition into committed romantic relationships, raising questions about what happens to the relationship after the FWB ends. In a sample of 119 men and 189 women university students, with a median age of 19 years and the majority identified as Caucasian (63.6 %), we assessed relationship adjustment, feelings of deception, perception of the FWB relationship and friendship, social connectedness, psychological distress, and loneliness. Results demonstrated that the majority of FWB relationships continued as friendships after the sexual intimacy ceased and that about 50 % of the participants reported feeling as close or closer to their FWB partner. Those who did not remain friends were more likely to report that their FWB relationship was more sex- than friendship-based; they also reported higher levels of feeling deceived by their FWB partner and higher levels of loneliness and psychological distress, but lower levels of mutual social connectedness. Higher levels of feeling deceived were related to feeling less close to the post-FWB friend; also, more sex-based FWB relationships were likely to result in post-FWB friendships that were either more or less close (as opposed to unchanged). FWB relationships, especially those that include more attention to friendship based intimacy, do not appear to negatively impact the quality of the friendship after the "with benefits" ends.
“友达以上,恋人未满”关系是友谊与性亲密的结合,通常没有排他性浪漫关系所特有的明确承诺。这些关系中的大多数不会转变为承诺式浪漫关系,这引发了关于“友达以上,恋人未满”关系结束后会发生什么的疑问。在一个由119名男大学生和189名女大学生组成的样本中,他们的年龄中位数为19岁,大多数人(63.6%)为白人,我们评估了关系调适、被欺骗感、对“友达以上,恋人未满”关系及友谊的认知、社交联系、心理困扰和孤独感。结果表明,大多数“友达以上,恋人未满”关系在性亲密结束后继续保持为友谊,约50%的参与者表示与他们的“友达以上,恋人未满”伴侣关系亲密或更亲密。那些没有继续成为朋友的人更有可能表示他们的“友达以上,恋人未满”关系更多基于性而非友谊;他们还报告称被“友达以上,恋人未满”伴侣欺骗的感觉更强烈,孤独感和心理困扰程度更高,但相互的社交联系程度更低。更高水平的被欺骗感与对“友达以上,恋人未满”关系结束后的朋友感觉不那么亲密有关;此外,更多基于性的“友达以上,恋人未满”关系可能会导致“友达以上,恋人未满”关系结束后的友谊变得更亲密或更不亲密(与保持不变相反)。“友达以上,恋人未满”关系,尤其是那些更注重基于友谊的亲密关系,在“有好处”结束后似乎不会对友谊质量产生负面影响。