Department of Psychology, Colorado State University, Fort Collins, CO 80523-1876, USA.
J Sex Res. 2011 Mar;48(2-3):275-84. doi: 10.1080/00224491003721694.
This research explored differences in how men and women approach "friends with benefits" (FWB) relationships. Specifically, this study examined sex differences in reasons for beginning such involvements, commitment to the friendship versus sexual aspects of the relationship, and partners'; anticipated hopes for the future. To do so, an Internet sample of individuals currently involved in FWB relationships was recruited. Results indicated many overall similarities in terms of how the sexes approach FWB relationships, but several important differences emerged. For example, sex was a more common motivation for men to begin such relationships, whereas emotional connection was a more common motivation for women. In addition, men were more likely to hope that the relationship stays the same over time, whereas women expressed more desire for change into either a full-fledged romance or a basic friendship. Unexpectedly, both men and women were more committed to the friendship than to the sexual aspect of the relationship. Although some additional similarities appeared, the findings were largely consistent with the notion that traditional gender role expectations and the sexual double standard may influence how men and women approach FWB relationships.
本研究探讨了男性和女性在“朋友式性行为”（FWB）关系中的不同处理方式。具体而言，本研究考察了开始此类关系的原因、对友谊与性关系的承诺、以及对未来的预期方面的性别差异。为此，招募了目前正在参与 FWB 关系的互联网样本。结果表明，在男性和女性接近 FWB 关系的方式方面存在许多总体相似之处，但也出现了一些重要差异。例如，对于男性来说，性是开始此类关系的更常见动机，而对于女性来说，情感联系是更常见的动机。此外，男性更希望关系随着时间的推移保持不变，而女性则更希望关系发生变化，要么变成全面的浪漫关系，要么变成基本的友谊。出乎意料的是，男性和女性对友谊的承诺都比对性关系的承诺更强烈。尽管出现了一些其他相似之处，但这些发现在很大程度上符合这样一种观点，即传统的性别角色期望和性双重标准可能会影响男性和女性对 FWB 关系的处理方式。
