Department of Psychology.
J Pers Soc Psychol. 2018 Nov;115(5):805-824. doi: 10.1037/pspi0000139. Epub 2018 Jul 23.
The decision to end a romantic relationship can have a life-changing impact on the partner as well as the self. Research on close relationships has thus far focused on self-interested reasons why people choose to stay in their relationship versus leave. However, a growing body of research on decision-making and prosociality shows that when people make decisions that impact others, they take those others' feelings and perspectives into consideration. In the present research, we tested the prediction that people make stay/leave decisions prosocially, such that consideration for their romantic partner's feelings can discourage people from ending their relationships. In Study 1, a total of 1,348 participants in romantic relationships were tracked over a 10-week period. Study 2 was a preregistered replication and extension of Study 1, in which 500 participants contemplating a breakup were followed over a 2-month period. Both studies showed that the more dependent people believed their partner was on the relationship, the less likely they were to initiate a breakup. These findings held above and beyond a variety of self-focused variables (e.g., investment model components; Rusbult, Martz, & Agnew, 1998). These results suggest that people can be motivated to stay in relatively unfulfilling relationships for the sake of their romantic partner. (PsycINFO Database Record (c) 2018 APA, all rights reserved).
结束一段浪漫关系的决定会对伴侣和自身产生改变人生的影响。因此，关于亲密关系的研究一直关注人们选择留在关系中而不是离开的自利原因。然而，越来越多关于决策和亲社会行为的研究表明，当人们做出影响他人的决策时，他们会考虑到他人的感受和观点。在本研究中，我们验证了这样一个预测：人们会做出亲社会的留/离决策，即考虑到伴侣的感受会阻止人们结束关系。在研究 1 中，共有 1348 名处于浪漫关系中的参与者在 10 周的时间内接受了跟踪调查。研究 2 是对研究 1 的预先注册复制和扩展，其中 500 名正在考虑分手的参与者在 2 个月的时间内接受了跟踪调查。这两项研究都表明，参与者认为他们的伴侣对关系的依赖程度越高，他们就越不可能主动提出分手。这些发现超出了各种以自我为中心的变量（例如，投资模型成分；Rusbult、Martz 和 Agnew，1998）的影响。这些结果表明，人们可能会为了伴侣的利益而留在相对不满足的关系中。（APA 心理学文献数据库记录（c）2018，保留所有权利）。
