York University, Toronto, ON, Canada.
University of Toronto, ON, Canada.
Pers Soc Psychol Bull. 2020 Nov;46(11):1538-1552. doi: 10.1177/0146167220907468. Epub 2020 Mar 14.
Romantic relationships help people meet needs for connection and emotional and sexual fulfillment. In the current research, we investigate an unexplored response to feeling sexually and relationally unfulfilled: reflecting on positive sexual experiences with past partners (or ). Across three studies, people low in attachment avoidance (i.e., comfortable with closeness) who were (a) single or (b) sexually or relationally dissatisfied reported greater sexual nostalgia, whereas people high in attachment avoidance (i.e., value autonomy) did not calibrate their feelings of sexual nostalgia based on their current relationship status or satisfaction. Sexual fantasies about past partners (i.e., sexual nostalgia) were distinct from other types of sexual fantasies (Study 1) and the effects could not be attributed to general nostalgia (Study 2) or sexual desire (Study 3). Chronic sexual nostalgia detracted from satisfaction over time. The findings have implications for theories of nostalgia and attachment and for managing unfulfilled needs in relationships.
浪漫关系有助于人们满足联系和情感及性满足的需求。在当前的研究中，我们探讨了一种对性和关系不满足的未被探索的反应：反思与过去伴侣的积极性体验（或）。在三项研究中，低依恋回避的人（即，对亲密关系感到舒适），无论是（a）单身还是（b）性或关系不满足，都报告了更高的性怀旧感，而高依恋回避的人（即，重视自主）则不会根据他们当前的关系状况或满意度来调整他们的性怀旧感。对过去伴侣的性幻想（即性怀旧）与其他类型的性幻想不同（研究 1），并且这些影响不能归因于一般怀旧（研究 2）或性欲望（研究 3）。慢性性怀旧感会随着时间的推移而降低满意度。这些发现对怀旧和依恋理论以及管理关系中未满足的需求具有重要意义。
