Mattison A M, McWhirter D P
HIV Neurobehavioral Research Center, San Diego, USA.
Psychiatr Clin North Am. 1995 Mar;18(1):123-37.
Although a body of scientific data about working with parents and families of gays and lesbians has not yet developed, there is a growing body of literature of an anecdotal and personal nature that has been cited. These works provide therapists with background information and clients needing assistance with guided reading. Therapists working with families and friends of gay men can find the experience rewarding and the therapeutic interventions effective. Much of the work is common sense, listening with the "third" ear for those underlying issues separate from the son's gayness that may affect the person's attitudes, feelings, and responses. Maintaining a professional demeanor while conveying a sense of caring and concern for the individuals is a key issue. As gay people become more visible in society and as the number of individuals coming out increases, there will be a need for more therapists who can assist families with their own coming out process. This article provides some basic guidelines and, as individual therapists gain more experience in this area, it will be important that others report those experiences, sharing them with the rest of the therapist community.
尽管关于与男同性恋者和女同性恋者的父母及家庭打交道的科学数据尚未形成体系，但已有越来越多的轶事性和个人性质的文献被引用。这些著作能为治疗师提供背景信息，也可供需要帮助的客户进行有指导的阅读。与男同性恋者的家人和朋友打交道的治疗师会发现这种经历很有意义，治疗干预也很有效。这项工作很多都是常识性的，要用“第三只耳朵”去倾听那些与儿子的同性恋身份无关但可能影响其态度、情感和反应的潜在问题。在传达对个人的关心和关注时保持专业的态度是一个关键问题。随着同性恋者在社会中越来越引人注目，以及出柜的人数不断增加，将需要更多能够协助家庭度过自身出柜过程的治疗师。本文提供了一些基本指导方针，随着个别治疗师在这一领域积累更多经验，其他人报告这些经验并与治疗师群体的其他成员分享将非常重要。
