Kernberg O F
New York Hospital-Cornell Medical Center, Westchester Division, White Plains 10605.
Psyche (Stuttg). 1994 Sep-Oct;48(9-10):866-85.
Love means the ability to combine idealization and erotic fulfillment and to establish a profound object relation. The author examines the clinical features of erotic desire, its ecstatic and aggressive aspects and the way they are bound up with transcending the limits of the self, its genetic roots and the unconscious object relations underlying the sexual couple. In Kernberg's view, embarking on the adventure of a love relationship involves both identifying with and overcoming the oedipal parent-couple at one and the same time. He sees breaches in love relationship as stemming from the discontinuity of the relation between mother and child. A mature super-ego, developing from a transformation of primitive constraints and guilt feelings as a result of aggression, is conducive to love and emotional commitment to the love object, while a sound ego-ideal is a fundamental requirement for the ability to fall in love. The article concludes with a discussion of the relationship between couples and groups.
爱意味着将理想化与性满足相结合，并建立深厚客体关系的能力。作者审视了性欲的临床特征、其狂喜与攻击性方面，以及它们与超越自我界限的关联方式、其起源根源和性伴侣关系背后的无意识客体关系。在克恩伯格看来，开启恋爱关系的冒险同时涉及认同并克服俄狄浦斯式的父母伴侣关系。他认为恋爱关系中的裂痕源于母婴关系的不连续性。成熟的超我由原始约束和因攻击产生的内疚感转变而来，有助于对恋爱对象产生爱和情感投入，而健全的自我理想是具备恋爱能力的基本要求。文章最后讨论了伴侣关系与群体关系。
