Levine S B
Center for Marital and Sexual Health, Beachwood, OH 44122, USA.
J Sex Marital Ther. 1996 Fall;22(3):191-202. doi: 10.1080/00926239608414656.
This essay explores three aspects of the normal processes of adult-adult love: falling in love, being in love, and staying in love. It describes the emotions, defenses, and challenges inherent in each phase. Love is an ordinary but immensely powerful adult aspiration. As a term it is impossible to define in any singular sense. The attainment of its lofty purposes requires profound intrapsychic adjustments involving creative acts of imagination, the integration of ideals with reality, evolving adaptations to the partner, the maintenance of a positive internal image of the partner, and ongoing struggles to overcome self-interest. These adjustments have not been well characterized by the mental health professions. This is ironic since a large portion of our work involves caring for love's casualties--that is, people whose miseries relate to their inability to successfully negotiate the phases of love or whose happiness is limited by their partners who cannot. Six arguments for ending professional avoidance of the topic are offered, the most compelling of which are love's relevance to both the pathogenesis of mental suffering and to the art of psychotherapeutic healing.
坠入爱河、处于恋爱中以及维持爱情。它描述了每个阶段所固有的情感、防御机制和挑战。爱情是一种普通却无比强大的成年人的渴望。作为一个术语，它不可能以任何单一的意义来定义。实现其崇高目标需要深刻的心理内部调整，这涉及到创造性的想象行为、理想与现实的整合、对伴侣不断演变的适应、对伴侣保持积极的内心形象，以及持续努力克服自我利益。这些调整尚未被心理健康专业领域很好地描述。这很具有讽刺意味，因为我们很大一部分工作涉及照顾爱情的受害者——也就是说，那些痛苦与他们无法成功度过爱情各阶段有关的人，或者那些幸福因伴侣无法做到而受限的人。文中提出了六条结束专业领域对该话题回避的理由，其中最有说服力的是爱情与心理痛苦的发病机制以及心理治疗康复艺术都相关。
