变得不可替代：与伴侣的其他选择进行比较如何对低自尊和高自尊的人产生不同影响。
Becoming Irreplaceable: How Comparisons to the Partner's Alternatives Differentially Affect Low and High Self-Esteem People.
作者信息
Murray Sandra L, Leder Sadie, McClellan Jennifer C D, Holmes John G, Pinkus Rebecca T, Harris Brianna
机构信息
University at Buffalo, State University of New York.
出版信息
J Exp Soc Psychol. 2009 Nov 1;45(6):1180-1191. doi: 10.1016/j.jesp.2009.07.001.
Abstract
It is proposed that people are motivated to feel hard to replace in romantic relationships because feeling irreplaceable fosters trust in a partner's continued responsiveness. By contrast, feeling replaceable motivates compensatory behavior aimed at strengthening the partner's commitment to the relationship. A correlational study of dating couples and 2 experiments examined how satiating/thwarting the goal of feeling irreplaceable differentially affects relationship perception and behavior for low and high self-esteem people. The results revealed that satiating the goal of feeling irreplaceable increases trust for people low in self-esteem. In contrast, thwarting the goal of feeling irreplaceable increases compensatory behaviors meant to prove one's indispensability for people high in self-esteem.
摘要
有人提出，人们在浪漫关系中会因感觉难以被替代而受到激励，因为感觉不可替代会促进对伴侣持续回应的信任。相比之下，感觉可被替代会激发补偿行为，旨在加强伴侣对关系的承诺。一项针对情侣的相关性研究和两项实验考察了满足/挫败感觉不可替代的目标如何对低自尊和高自尊人群的关系认知及行为产生不同影响。结果显示，满足感觉不可替代的目标会增加低自尊人群的信任。相反，挫败感觉不可替代的目标会增加高自尊人群旨在证明自己不可或缺的补偿行为。
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