Wolford Sarah N, Darling Carol A, Rehm Marsha, Cui Ming
Department of Family and Child Sciences, College of Human Sciences, Florida State University, Tallahassee, Florida 32312.
J Child Fam Stud. 2020 Mar;29(3):660-675. doi: 10.1007/s10826-019-01612-4. Epub 2019 Oct 11.
This study examined the external influences and internal processes in parental beliefs, perceptions, and emotions regarding the parenting of adolescent children and the role of parental indulgence.
Interviews of 29 parents of adolescents, who were approximately 15 years old, were conducted regarding the perceptions of parental indulgence they had experienced and currently practice. The study incorporated a family ecosystem approach with qualitative analytic methods including MAXQDA to identify thematic findings.
Findings revealed three themes and their subthemes: (1) Responding to the external world: Family life adjustments and indulgence, which encompassed (a) Family life adjustments (i.e., divorce, separation) and managing (b) Increased demands (i.e., responsibilities at home and school); (2) Reflecting on the parenting patterns in hindsight-Internal search for clarity and effectiveness with an in-depth (a) Parent reflection process regarding their choice to indulge, and (b) Clear parenting choices, or, exceptions to indulgence; and (3) Reconciling personal experiences of being parented: Discontinuity and continuity, involved reflections on parents desire to change or keep the parenting practices modeled by their caregivers. Emotional experiences were shaped by parents' own perceptions that parenting needs to be effective, but vulnerability occurred when faced with distractions in the family due to internal pressures such as marital disruptions and external stresses of social norms and cultural expectations.
Results demonstrate how parents emotionally cope with pressure and how multiple emotional undertones potentially drive their decisions to indulge. Directions for future research are discussed.
本研究探讨了父母在青少年养育方面的信念、认知和情感中的外部影响及内部过程,以及父母纵容行为的作用。
对29位孩子年龄约为15岁的青少年父母进行访谈,了解他们对所经历和当前实施的父母纵容行为的认知。该研究采用家庭生态系统方法,并运用包括MAXQDA在内的定性分析方法来确定主题研究结果。
研究结果揭示了三个主题及其子主题:(1)应对外部世界:家庭生活调整与纵容,其中包括(a)家庭生活调整(即离婚、分居)及管理,(b)需求增加(即家庭和学校的责任);(2)事后反思养育模式——内心寻求清晰与有效性,深入探讨(a)父母对其纵容选择的反思过程,以及(b)明确的养育选择,或纵容行为的例外情况;(3)调和为人父母的个人经历:间断性与连续性,涉及对父母改变或保持其照顾者所塑造的养育方式的愿望的反思。情感体验受到父母自身认为养育需有效的观念的影响,但当面对因婚姻破裂等内部压力以及社会规范和文化期望等外部压力导致的家庭干扰时,就会出现脆弱性。
研究结果表明了父母如何在情感上应对压力,以及多种情感底色如何潜在地驱动他们做出纵容的决定。文中还讨论了未来研究的方向。